One of the biggest and most damaging lies your Judge (or inner critic) tells you every day is this; “Your current situation and circumstances are not good enough for you to be happy. You’ll be happy when ________ (fill in the blank).” Think about how your Judge (inner critic) has finished this sentence all through your life.
You’ll be happy when…
you finally grow up and become independent from your parents
you get into that college
you get that job
you get that promotion
you buy that house
you find that relationship
you have a child
…and so on, and so on.
Now think about it. When you finally got what you thought would make you happy, how long did your happiness last before your Judge (inner critic) again said; “Actually you don’t have what you need to be happy. You’ll be happy when ___________” and created a new target so you could finally be happy one day.
Very importantly – what is your Judge’s lie right now?
What are you unhappy about right now?
What situation or circumstance is bothering you right now, that you’re waiting to change, so you can be happy someday?
Whatever you are waiting for so you can be happy someday, is the latest lie of your Judge.
Your Sage knows that you have everything you need right now to be happy. That’s because happiness depends entirely on which part of your brain is activated and dealing with your life’s challenges, and what emotions you are experiencing.
For example, if you have failed at something, your Sage would be focused on converting that failure into a gift – using the 5 Sage modes of being:
or purpose driven
or in calm laser focused, clear-headed action
All these 5 Sage modes generate positive emotions ranging from empathy, compassion and gratitude, to wonder, joy of creativity, to peace and calm.
When you’re feeling all these positive emotions, you’re happy, even if life’s circumstances haven’t gone your way.
Happiness is an inner state of mind.
When you feel positive emotions, you have everything you need to be happy right now!
Today’s challenge: intercept your Judge’s lie that you can’t be happy until something changes in your life.
Stop waiting to be happy one day – choose to be happy today!