No matter what topic brings my client to our coaching session (seeking increased confidence, gaining executive or leadership presence, getting unstuck, moving to the next level, improved communication style, effectively integrating family & work life, etc.) the one thing that is common is the feeling of needing CLARITY. Clients feel that it is this elusive and missing element that is the guiding light, the beacon, the revelation, that will help them to see what/when/where they really need to go to be happy and fulfilled. The definition of clarity brings this home; “the quality or state of being clear”, “the quality of being coherent and intelligible”, “the quality of being certain or definite”, and “the quality of transparency or purity”.
So what is it that blocks us from having clarity, and what is it that allows us to find that clarity? It’s a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration. Many times this lack stems from getting lost in others opinions and values, rather than remaining true to our own. Clarity offers freedom from indistinctness or ambiguity. Clarity eliminates options and allows us to align with our own personal values.
For me the thought that the mind is like water, is the perfect metaphor. When it’s agitated, the more difficult it is to see. If you allow it to settle, it again becomes clear. Sometimes you need a break, or a quiet beautiful place, to reach that stillness inside. Alone. When you can simply be.
Clarity will find you when you let it come in. For some it’s through meditation, others it’s journaling, and still others it’s through nature or music. Whatever your channel, it’s then that it all falls into place. Clarity doesn’t always mean that you know exactly what you’re doing – it does mean that you know exactly who you’re being and why. There’s nothing quite as intense as that moment of clarity, when you suddenly see what’s possible for you.
So I encourage you to carve out consistent quite time – in your home, your office, on a hike, sitting near a lake or stream, meditating, journaling, praying – wherever works best for you. And simply BE. Alone. Listening. Hearing your truth.
“When your clarity meets your conviction, and you apply action to the equation, your world will begin to transform before your eyes.”
— Lisa Nichols